Has Changing Jobs Caused You to Lose Your Groove?
Whenever people experience significant change in their lives -- even when it is due to positive changes -- there is usually some readjustment period required to regain their footing. Changes in life more often than not involve changes in routines. Changes in one simple routine, such as the time spent commuting to work, can have a wide sweeping effect on all your other life activities and routines.
For example, if you move to a nicer home or switch to a new job for better opportunities, most people would consider both of these changes to be overall positive things. However, your commute or work hours may be longer which can impact where you are able to spend your time (i.e., you may need to find daycare, a gym, or bank closer to work now), or the amount of time you have to devote to family, business, or leisure (spending more time on the road traveling to and from work means less time to do other things.)
In addition to changes in our routines, change disrupts our moods and thought processes. While change can often be a good thing, for many it present stumbling blocks that lead to either depression, or the sense of losing one's purpose or direction in life. The later is more commonly aligned with the phrase having "lost your groove."
That longer commute to a better job may cause to you question your decision, or worse, lead to conflict with your spouse or children over the increased amount of time your job now requires. And, better jobs often mean harder work or more responsibilities -- both of which can add to your stress load.
Women under stress at work may find themselves less able to cope with the stresses at home. Women, in particular, tend to feel guilty (or are made to feel guilty) for simple things like bringing take-out dinner home or shoving leftovers in the microwave when they do not have time to spend hours cooking in the kitchen. Instead of being able to enjoy their new success at work, they become focused on sacrifices and can feel torn between work and loved ones. That feeling of an overwhelming sense of duty is often associated with losing your groove.
Downgrading or Losing Your Job
Since the recession began in 2008, millions of people have lost their jobs. To many out of work men and women, this meant having to file for short- or long-term unemployment benefits, exhausting job hunts, or taking a downgraded position or fewer hours. And, unfortunately, many displaced workers found that finding a job, support, and even getting unemployment benefits was not so easy as filling out forms and showing up for an interview. All of these changes are hard to face because a job downgrade, or being unemployed not only disrupts a woman's 9-to-5 routine, it also impacts her home life schedule.
Looking for a job is time consuming and even more energy consuming. Not having a job, or having to take a job you do not like or that does not let you use your skills can be unrewarding, sobering, and even depressing. And older women who are competing with men and younger women, may feel like the also need to makeover their wardrobe, physical appearance, of take college courses to complete a degree.
All these things take time away from other aspects of your life. If you are unable to get out of bed, feel so overwhelmed that cannot cope with even the smallest of taks like bathing, running errands, or interact with other people you could be suffering from depression. If you are just upset, angry, or frustrated by the sudden change in your job situation that has upset the balance in your life, but are still able to work on the most important things in your life, you may have simply lost your groove.
If You Are Depressed, Please, Seek Help
Sometimes changes can precipitate or worsen existing depression. It is important to determine if you are suffering from depression, or just need to get your "groove" back after changes in routines have thrown you off kilter. Untreated, depression can be severely debilitating and depression often requires the help of a therapist or medication to overcome.
Common of the most signs and symptoms of depression (which can vary significantly from person to person) include:
- Changes in appetite or weight (either weight gain or weight loss);
- Profound sadness, or even bouts of crying;
- Changes in sleep habits, either insomnia, or sleeping too much;
- Lack of interest in pleasurable activities (including hobbies, sex, spending time with people you love, etc.)
- Feeling worthless or guilty;
- Decreased ability to focus or complete tasks.
If you are not sure if you are suffering from depression, seek help. A counselor or therapist can assess your symptoms and help you develop a course of action to treat your depression.